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06-07-2013 Few ways to earn rewards
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08-04-2013 A message for PIA from Emirates
02-12-2012 Secret videos of Girlfriends and blackmailing - Urdu TV Program for Girls
19-09-2012 Protest against disrespect of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)
19-09-2012 Double Standard - Kate Topless and Prophets Blasphemy
18-09-2012 Innocence of non Muslims rather Guiltiness of non Muslims
09-08-2012 200 Filipinos embrace Islam in Dubai
24-07-2012 Maa bhai kub maray ga - ماں بھائی کب مرے گا
11-01-2012 Equality vs Justice
13-09-2011 SubHumanity
05-07-2011 This is how a baby miss his father
22-05-2011 A letter from Parents
12-02-2011 Free Kashmir - Free Palastine
25-12-2010 When people you trust, let you down.
18-03-2010 Think before you post on Facebook - Specially for girls
27-02-2010 Eid Milad Un Nabi (صلی اللہ علیہ و سلم)
08-09-2009 Poetry - Shairi - Quotes - English - Urdu - Arabic (occasional updation)
26-06-2009 Suno agar sun sako to - Urdu Quotes
25-05-2009 Think it...Food Taste and Hunger
22-05-2009 What v got from China - Some thing about China Success
27-04-2009 One face of world as I see
17-04-2009 Forgiveness
08-04-2009 Ye Kaisa Hay Musalman
12-03-2009 Mubarak the birth day of محمد رسول الله صلي الله عليه و سلم
07-03-2009 Durood
06-03-2009 21st Century.... We are becoming lesser by the day
06-02-2009 My Love... Muhammad - Pakistan
23-01-2009 A bit sad but good luck youth...
19-01-2009 War on Gaza Annie Lennox Shaken To The Core Sky News
14-01-2009 We will not go down - Song for Gaza by Michael Heart
14-01-2009 Isnt Israel doing terrorism in Palestine - Media Pictures Photos 1
07-01-2009 Ibrahem Bin Adham
02-01-2009 Heartbreaking Poem of Palestinian Girl
30-12-2008 Isnt Israel doing terrorism in Palestine - Media Pictures Photos 4
30-10-2008 The Philosophy of Life
28-10-2008 Story of two Women
14-10-2008 Ahhh! The Life
07-10-2008 Free Unlimited Account
16-09-2008 Think about it... Life hereafter...
09-09-2008 Change our vision
09-09-2008 Donkey Attitude - Way to live!
02-09-2008 The Two Wolves
20-08-2008 No Limit - Anger - Regret
23-07-2008 No Excuse!
06-06-2008 Isnt Israel doing terrorism in Palestine - Media Pictures Photos 2
25-04-2008 Easy Vs Difficult
12-04-2008 Team Work
01-05-2007 Future Home - Qabar
20-03-2007 Isnt Israel doing terrorism in Palestine - Media Pictures Photos 3
09-03-2007 JOB aur Kaaaam
20-06-2006 ONE BEDROOM FLAT... cost my life.
Tue 20 Jun 2006


ONE BEDROOM FLAT... A TYPICAL MIDDLE CLASS INDIAN SOFTWARE ENGINEER'S LIFE... - A Bitter Reality

As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity.


When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true.


Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned  enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after  his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.

I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's  and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate
getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my  parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in
the cheapest flight. I was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return
to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA.

My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes
3 times a week. Our savings  started diminishing. After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the
Almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.

Every year I decide to go to India, the work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India. The next message I got was my parents had passed away and there was no one to do the last rites ...the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My  parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.

After a couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned  to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA.

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India. My 2 children and I returned to USA  after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in  USA. I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing  and returned to India. I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality.  
Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

Sometimes I wonder was it worth all this? My father, even after staying in India, had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more.

I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.


Even if i had earned millions what i would have done with that Today?

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values
and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rites, God Bless them. But the question still remains 'was all this worth it ?

I am still searching for an answer................!!!!

Please pass on this message to as many people as possible so that everybody should know their destiny, which is more important..... relation or money ????

Remember money isn't everything, it is not the only means of happiness... it is up to you to decide.. Life is a beautiful gift of God, He has gifted it to you to live it. 

If you want to see the rainbow, you have to survive the storm.

 

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